2nd Family

2011 also mark another milestone in my life when I decided to have another family.

Most people who know me simply did not understand the reason behind, those close to me, make the assumption and those who ask me decided not to believe my reasons...

In short, all I can say it is really a Qada & Qadar... there are too many reasons but the main deciding factor is to go back to Allah swt for His guidance. After doing so many ‘istiqarah’ and doing more in depth study about the matter in Islamic teaching, only then I decide. Even then, I had a few incidents that will lead to calling off the marriage, but it is Allah swt's willing, it still happened, that's why I strongly believe it is a Qada & Qadar and this was written for me long before by HIM.

I do love my family and I will never neglect them, that’s my vow... but at the same time I saw another family that in really need of help and guidance. Somebody is kind and good but always end up with wrong people. This family really ‘terumbang ambing’ and if they fall into another wrong person, I simply could not forgive myself for not helping them.

My intention is to provide better guidance, especially bring back 3 Muslims into the right path. Their aqidah is almost gone ashtray and I did it for my religion at my own expense.

Off course I can choose the easy way out like some people did i.e. by just keeping them but remain marriage to only one... but it’s wrong and that’s why Islam forbid us from doing so. My fear is Allah swt, so I decided to brave myself to face whatever circumstances as long as I’m not going against His teaching.

Some even link it to sex... Look here, if it is sex, I can get better... I’m not marrying somebody who is very much younger either. If I’m really into it, I can get those in the 20’s... I’m not joking because that’s the truth. I’ve met college students and young executives who shown interest in me but I prefer not to pursue further because they look at what I have rather than who am I... Furthermore, I’m marrying a divorcee who already had 2 kids... why should I add more problems? Might as well I look for single without any commitment, no headache.

There are so many remarks made against me, I just leave it to Allah swt because He know the real reason behind it.

To me, my focus is jannah and lillah taala, there is no other reason than my intention to help them, guide them and let the children feel the feeling of having a father. I may not be perfect, but I try my best. To those who make so many wrong assumption and remarks, my advice, fear Allah swt, my friend. For me, it’s Allah swt that gonna judge me...

I'm also would like to express my graatest gratitude to my wife and kids. To my wife, thank you for your understanding. I know it is painful but the 'pahala' you gonna get in after life will be more than you can imagine. As I mentioned to you, I still and will always love you. I will take good care of you till I breath my last breath. There is no word I can describe here but just my greatest gratitude from the bottom of my heart.

To my kids, I'm still the same father and I never neglected you all too. You are my heart and soul and I'm always proud of you.