One of my favourite book on human character is 'Personality Plus' by Florence Littuer...
The book basically teach us about how to know and understand human character.... from there it will help us better in dealing with people of each character... this is good in husband and wife relationship, parents with children, employee with bosses or colleague, sales person with customers, friends, relatives etc etc...
How to start? You need to do the test from the questionnaire provided... from there you will mark your answer against the character and once completed, you will know your own character... for those reading the book before, they can confirm whether it's true or false by looking at your character...
Human being are born with 4 main character... they are Sanguine, Melancholy, Phlegmatic & Choleric...
Popular Sanguine Personality
The Extrovert – The Talker – The Optimist
Strengths
POPULAR SANGUINE EMOTIONS
Appealing personality
Talkative, story teller
Life of the party
Good sense of humor
Memory for color
Physically holds on to listener
Emotional and demonstrative
Enthusiastic and expressive
Cheerful and bubbling over
Curios
Good on stage
Wide-eyed and innocent
Lives in the present
Changeable disposition
Sincere at heart
Always a child
POPULAR SANGUINE AT WORK
Volunteers for job
Thinks up new activities
Looks great on the surface
Creative and colorful
Has energy and enthusiasm
Starts in a flashy way
Inspire others to join
Charm others to work
POPULAR SANGUINE AS A PARENT
Makes home fun
Is liked by children’s friend
Turns disaster into humor
Is the circus master
POPULAR SANGUINE AS A FRIEND
Makes friends easily
Loves people
Thrives on compliments
Seems exciting
Envied by others
Doesn’t hold grudges
Apologizes quickly
Prevents dull moments
Likes spontaneous activities
Powerful Choleric Personality
The Extrovert – The Doer – The Optimist
Strengths
POWERFUL CHOLERIC EMOTIONS
Born leader
Dynamic and active
Compulsive need for change
Must correct wrongs
Strong willed and decisive
Unemotional
Not easily discourage
Independent and self-sufficient
Exudes confidence
Can run anything
POWERFUL CHOLERIC AT WORK
Goal oriented
Sees the whole picture
Organizes well
Seeks practical solutions
Moves quickly to action
Delegates work
Insists on production
Makes the goal
Stimulates activity
Thrives on opposition
POWERFUL CHOLERIC AS A PARENT
Exerts sound leadership
Establishes goals
Motivates family to action
Knows the right answer
Organizes household
POWERFUL CHOLERIC AS A FRIEND
Has little need for friends
Will work for group activity
Will lead and organize
Is usually right
Excels in emergencies
Perfect Melancholy Personality
The Introvert – The Thinker – The Pessimist
Strengths
PERFECT MELANCHOLY EMOTIONS
Deep and thoughtful
Analytical
Serious and purposeful
Genius prone
Talented and creative
Artistic or musical
Philosophical poetic
Appreciative of beauty
Sensitive to others
Self-sacrificing
Conscientious
Idealistic
PERFECT MELANCHOLY AT WORK
Schedule oriented
Perfectionist, high standards
Detail conscious
Persistent and through
Orderly and organized
Neat and tidy
Economical
Sees the problems
Find creative solutions
Needs to finish what is started
Like charts, graph, figures, lists
PERFECT MELANCHOLY AS A PARENT
Sets high standards
Wants everything done right
Keeps home in good order
Picks up after children
Sacrifices own will for others
Encourages scholarship and talent
PERFECT MELANCHOLY AS A FRIEND
Makes friends cautiously
Content to stay in background
Avoids causing attention
Faithful and devoted
Will listen to complaints
Can solve others’ problems
Deep concern for other people
Moved to tears with compassion
Seeks ideal mate
Peaceful Phlegmatic Personality
The Introvert – The Watcher – The Pessimist
Strengths
PEACEFUL PHLEGMATIC EMOTIONS
Low key personality
Easygoing and relaxed
Calm, cool and collected
Patient, well balanced
Consistent life
Quiet but witty
Sympathetic and kind
Keeps emotions hidden
Happily reconciled to life
All-purpose person
PEACEFUL PHLEGMATIC AT WORK
Competent and steady
Peaceful and agreeable
Has administrative ability
Mediates problems
Avoids conflicts
Good under pressure
Finds the easy way
PEACEFUL PHLEGMATIC AS A PARENT
Makes a good parent
Takes time for the children
Is not in a hurry
Can take the good with the bad
Doesn’t get upset easily
PEACEFUL PHLEGMATIC AS A FRIEND
Easy to get along with
Pleasant and enjoyable
Inoffensive
Good listener
Dry sense of humor
Enjoys watching people
Has many friends
Has compassion and concern
Hmm... do you think which character your spouse or children or friends? You can guess... read the book, it's interesting...
The book also touch on problems faced by each character and how to solve it... here's some of the comment...
Popular Sanguine
Problem No. 1: Talk too much Solution 1: Talk half as much as people
Solution 2: Watch for sign of boredom
Solution 3: Condense your comments
Solution 4: Stop exaggerating
Problem no. 2: Self - centered
Solution 1: Be sensitive to other people’s interest
Solution 2: Learn to listen
Problem no. 3: Have uncultivated memories
Solution 1: Pay attention to names
Solution 2: Write things down
Solution 3: Don’t forget the children
Problem no. 4: Fickle and forgetful friends
Solution 1: Read the friendship factor
Solution 2: Put others needs first
Problem no. 5: Like to interrupt and answer for others
Solution 1: Don’t think you must fill all the gaps
Problem no. 6: Disorganized and Immature
Solution 1: Pull your life together
Solution 2: Grow up
Perfect Melancholy
Problem No. 1: Easily depressed
Solution 1: Must realize no one like gloomy people
Solution 2: Don’t look for trouble
Solution 3: Don’t get hurt so easily
Solution 4: Look for the positives
Problem no. 2: Have low self - images
Solution 1: Search out the source of your insecurities
Solution 2: Listen for evidence of “false humility”
Problem no. 3: Procrastinate
Solution 1: Get the “right things” before starting
Solution 2: Don’t spend so much time planning
Problem no. 4: Put unrealistic demands on others
Solution 1: Relax your standards
Solution 2: Be grateful you understand your temperament
Powerful Choleric
Problem No. 1: Compulsive workers
Solution 1: Learn to relax
Solution 2: Take the pressure off others
Solution 3: Plan leisure activity
Problem no. 2: Must be in-control
Solution 1: Respond to other leadership
Solution 2: Don’t look down on “the dummies”
Solution 3: Stop manipulating
Problem no. 3: Don’t know how to handle people
Solution 1: Practice patience
Solution 2: Keep advice until asked
Solution 3: Tone down your approach
Solution 4: Stop arguing and causing trouble
Problem no. 4: Always right but unpopular
Solution 1: Let someone else be right
Solution 2: Learn to apologize
Solution 3: Admit you have some faults
Peaceful Phlegmatic
Problem No. 1: Not exciting
Solution 1: Try to get enthused
Problem no. 2: Resist Change
Solution 1: Try something new
Problem no. 3: Seems lazy
Solution 1: Learn to accept responsibility for your life
Solution 2: Don’t put off until tomorrow what you can do today
Solution 3: Motivate yourself
Problem no. 4: Have a quiet will of iron
Solution 1: Learn to communicate your feelings
Problem no. 5: Appear wishy-washy
Solution 1: Practice making decisions
Solution 2: Learn to say NO
Best remember as
Popular Sanguines are best:
- In dealing with people enthusiastically
- In expressing thoughts with excitement
- In up-front positions of attention
Perfect Melancholies are best:
- In attending to details and in deep thinking
- In keeping records, charts and graphs
- In analyzing problems too difficult for others
Powerful Cholerics are best:
- In jobs that require quick decisions
- In spots that need instant action and accomplishments
- In areas that demand strong control and authority
Peaceful Phlegmatics are best:
- In positions of mediation and unity
- In storms that need a calming hand
- In routine that might seem dull to others
In conclusion God make each one of us different, so we could function in our own role just like human body.
God make some of us to be:
Feet: to move, to administer, to accomplish just like Powerful Choleric.
Mind: to think deeply, to feel, to write like Perfect Melancholy
Hand: to serve, to smooth, and to soothe like Peaceful Phlegmatic
Mouth: to talk, to teach, to encourage like Popular Sanguine
If God could have made us all
Popular Sanguine: We would have lots of fun but accomplish little.
Perfect Melancholy: We would have been organized and charted but not very cheerful.
Powerful Choleric: We would have been all set to lead, but impatient that no one would follow.
Peaceful Phlegmatic: We would have a peaceful world but not much enthusiasm for life.
We need each temperament for the total function of the body. Each part should do its work to unify the action and produce harmonious results.
Have fun reading the book...