Sigh....

I sometimes really at lost on how to handle certain people...

When they make mistake & say sorry... you forgive them... then a few days later, they repeat same thing again & once again they apologise, you forgave but a bit bitter... then for heaven sake they repeat again the same stupid mistake & easily apologise... this time, I really dont know what to say or do... yes, I do forgive but the question in my mind... do they ever learn from their mistake? do they really sincere in apologising? damn... I'm really at lost facing this kind of human being...

Anther thing that i could not tolerate is people who take whatever looks like theirs as theirs without having any inkling that possibility theirs is already in their possession somewhere...and the thing that they take is really not theirs till the rightful owner asking about it... haiyaa... for heaven sake, please... please... please... you are not the only person in this world own that OK?

Needs a lot of Thinking... Can you answer this?

Got this from a friend of mine... hahaha


Once there was a bus conductor, who was very rude to his passengers.

One day a beautiful young girl, of around 18 years,tried to board the bus, but he didn't stop the bus. Unfortunately the beautiful young girl came under the bus and died on the spot.

Angry passengers took the conductor to the police station, who in turn took him to the court.

The judge was not at all impressed with him and gave him capital punishment.

He was taken to the electrocution chamber.

There was a single chair in the center of the room and a single banana peel at one corner of the room.

The conductor was strapped to the chair and high voltage current was given to him! .

But to everyone's amazement, he survived.

The judge decided to set him free, and he returned to his profession.


After a few months, this time, a good looking middle aged woman tried to board the bus but the conductor didn't stop the bus.

Unfortunately, this time also, the good looking middle aged woman came under the bus and died on the spot. Again angry passengers took him to the police station, who in turn took him to the court.

The judge took one look at the conductor and gave him capital punishment.

The Bus conductor was taken to the same electrocution chamber where there was a single chair in the center of the room and a single banana peel at one corner of the room.

He was strapped to the chair and high voltage current was given to him.

This time also to everyone's amazement, he survived.

The judge decided to set him free, and he returned to his profession.


A couple of months later, an elderly gentleman tried to board the bus.
This time the Bus conductor, remembering his earlier experiences, stopped the bus.
Unfortunately the elderly gentleman slipped and died due to his injuries.

The conductor was taken to the police station and then to the court, to the same judge.

Though he hadn't done anything wrong, but considering his past record the judge decided to set an example and gave him capital punishment.

The Bus conductor was again taken to the same electrocution chamber where there was a single chair in the center of the room and a single banana peel at one corner of the room.

He was strapped to the chair and high voltage current was given to him.

This time he died instantly !!!!!!!!!!!



The question is why didn't he die on the first two occasions, but died instantly the third time??

Try to solve it yourselves. This is rather interesting and answer is perfectly logical. If necessary read the puzzle once again.

Still you couldn't, Then see below...







Think hard








Tired????







wanna know the answer????


Answer :

During the first two times, the conductor was a Bad Conductor, therefore electricity didn't pass through him.

But during the third time, he was a good conductor, electricity passed through him freely and he died!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!! !

Ha Ha Ha ha !!!!!!!! Obviously you gotta revise your science chapter on Electricity? ?



Hope you have a good day...

Are we developing our kids to be positive or negative thinker?

Most of us adult tend to have negative thinking... mainly are due to our upbringing when our parents tend to stop us on what we want/like to do... don't do that, don't touch that, don't go there etc etc... they only forbid us without explaining the real reason... unlike kids nowadays, they think differently... hence, as parents, we should spend more time reasoning with them so that they understand better...

On top of the above, we should also teach them to believe in themselves and have the winning mentality... Only through this we can develop them to be more positive in their life...

Below is a true story I would like to share on positive thinker vs adult with negative thinker... hope you enjoy and for you to ponder...

On my way home one day, I stopped to watch a Little League base ball game that was being played in a park near my home.

As I sat down behind the bench on the first-base line, I asked one of the boys what the score was
'We're behind 14 to nothing,' he answered With a smile.

'Really,' I said. 'I have to say you don't look very discouraged. '

'Discouraged? ', the boy asked with a Puzzled look on his face...

'Why should we be discouraged? We haven't Been up to bat yet.'

The Secret...

One day, one friend asked another,

"How is it that you are always so happy? You have so much energy, and you never seem to get down."

With her eyes smiling, she said,

"I know the Secret!"

"What secret is that?"

To which she replied, "I'll tell you all about it, but you have to promise to share the Secret with others."

"The Secret is this:
I have learned there is little I can do in my life that will make me truly happy. I must depend on God to make me happy and to meet my needs.

When a need arises in my life, I have to trust God to supply according to HIS riches. I have learned most of the time I don't need half of what I think I do. He has never let me down. Since I learned that 'Secret', I am happy."


The questioner's first thought was, "That's too simple!"

But upon reflecting over her own life she recalled how she thought a bigger house would make her happy, but it didn't!

She thought a better paying job would make her happy, but it hadn't.

When did she realize her greatest happiness?
Sitting on the floor with her grandchildren, playing games, eating pizza or reading a story, a simple gift from God.

Now you know it too!

We can't depend on people to make us happy. Only GOD in His infinite wisdom can do that. Trust HIM!

And now I share the Secret on to you! So once you knew it, what will you do?

YOU have to tell someone the Secret, too!
That GOD in His wisdom will take care of YOU!
But it's not really a secret...
We just have to believe it and do it...
Really trust God!

In everything you do, put GOD first, and he will direct you and crown your effort with success.

The Magic Of Love

Love is like magic...
And it always will be.

For love still remains,
Life's sweet mystery!!

Love works in ways
That are wondrous and strange
And there's nothing in life
That love cannot change!!

Love can transform
The most commonplace
Into beauty and splendor
And sweetness and grace.

Love is unselfish,
Understanding and kind,
For it sees with its heart
And not with its mind!!

Love is the answer
That everyone seeks...

Love is the language,
That every heart speaks.

Love can't be bought,
It is priceless and free,

Love, like pure magic,
Is life's sweet mystery!!

I love you my dear wife...

Accident

My wife met with small accident last night... pity her... but I’m glad she is OK…... that is most important to me...

This morning go and sort out her Kelisa repair with the other party and so far all went well... look forward to see her Kelisa out next week... in the meantime, my "black mafia" belongs to her & my faithful "goldie" will serve me...

Anyway, this is second time her Kelisa had an accident... hehehe... like hinting to me something jer... and one thing for sure, never ever talk about changing car unless you really want to change it... It’s like they ‘merajuk’ or something like that... even my "black mafia" had an accident before when I was busy making up my "goldie"...hmmm...

By the way, come to think of it, my wife deserved to drive better car & insyaAllah dear, I’ll get you your dream/wish (got to qualify on this...sometimes dream is ferrari but wish is only mini cooper...hehehe) car soon... just pray for it.. You deserved the best dear...

Bumiputera

This is a hot topic and as much as I would like to touch on this at length, I had to be cautious due to sensitivity and ISA threat hanging over my head (if I go over board)...

In short, I totally agree with what Tun Dr. Mahathir said recently and fully behind PERKASA in this issue... I'm not their member and my stand remains i.e. as a non partisan Malaysian.

In a nutshell, we all Malaysian should be happy with what had been agreed during independent... nobody gets all and no body lost all... As Malay, below are my brief perspective based on my understanding of the history and constitution;

To non Malay
- You got your citizenship
- You got to maintain your mother tongue & use it freely
- You got to practice your religion / belief freely (in fact, having amongst the biggest religious statue in the world)
- You got your own schools (SRJKC & SRJKT)
- You got your own university now
- You got to be part of the party that rule the country
- You got freedom in doing business and acquiring assets/wealth forever
- plus many more...

The above are amongst things that the Malay had given you, in return, what had you given to the Malay? So, please stop questioning our rights when in the first place it’s already ours well before your ancestors stepped their foot here.

To me, it’s very simple, if you don’t like Malaysia as it is now, feel free to migrate... take up citizenship elsewhere and see/feel for yourself how those countries treat you... nearest is Singapore...

Well before I get emotional, better I stop here... but please remember guys, without the Malay leaders agreement on the above earlier, where would you be... look at Brunei & Indonesia during Suharto time to name a few...

Stop talking about human rights because Malays have the right too... especially in their mother land...

I love Malaysia & quite satisfied with the current harmony... so please stop provoking others... be grateful with what you got and let’s live peacefully together...

Petrol...Petrol...

Back to this topic again...

I personally do not understand why every minister taking over this portfolio kept on harping on same issues... Instead of making it better, each minister seems like trying to out do their predecessor by coming out with yet another “brilliant” idea...

To me personally, I’m not into subsidy thing and prefer to be out of any subsidy... My parents thought me from small to stand on my own for everything I did without depending on any subsidy or mercy of others...

From my perspective as a layman, things are quite simple and there have been a lot of comment about this, yet they simply refused to listen for reasons best known to them...

My suggestion; removed all petrol subsidies and let everybody pay on actual market price... at the same time, removed all road tax and reduce (if not abolish) all sales tax, import excise duty & road tolls... Once you did that, nobody is complaining... the poor will only use small fraction on petrol & the rich will have to pay for whatever they use...

Some may argue that the price of goods will go up... well, the transportation cost actually will remain almost the same because despite of paying extra petrol, they in return save in tolls, cost of purchasing the lorries as well as maintenance...

I knew somebody in charged of fleet or trailers, their actual “killing” cost is the maintenance, not the petrol... once you abolish taxes on import duties & sales tax, automatically the spare part costs, tyres etc will go down...

At the same time, the so called “savings” from the petrol subsidy, the government should channel it towards improving the public transport...

Honestly, in my personal opinion, if the public transport is efficient, almost half of those driving would prefer to use public transport... I for once don‘t mind using it... save me all the headache on parking, summons, maintenance, wear & tear, agony stuck in jams etc etc...

I guess, the main agenda why some choose to ignore are due to political reasons and position… this changes if ever been carried out, involved too many ministries which amongst ministers, they are known of ‘minding your own’ ministry “rule”…

I will touch on this again in near future till they can explain and make more sensible decision…

How to Start a Conversation with new People...

Part 2, on personal development... by personality grooming guru

1. Start with a "hello", and simply tell the new person your name then ask them theirs. Offer your hand to shake, upon his/her responding to you. (If you go to other countries, greet the person in tune with the particular culture). If you already know the person, skip this step and proceed to step.

2. Look around. See if there is anything worth pointing out. Sure, talking about the weather is a cliche, but if there's something unusual about it "bam!" you've got a great topic of conversation.

3. Offer a compliment. Don't lie and say you love someone's hair when you think it's revolting, but if you like his or her shoes, or a handbag, say so. A sincere compliment is a wonderful way to get someone to warm up to you. But be careful not to say something so personal that you scare the person off or make him or her feel uncomfortable. It is best not to compliment a person's looks or body.

4. Ask questions! Most people love to talk about themselves; get them going. "What classes are you taking this year?", "Have you seen (Insert-Something- Here)? What did you think of it?" Again, keep the questions light and not invasive. Do not ask too many questions if he or she is not responsive to them.

5. Jump on any conversation- starters he or she might offer; take something he or she has said and run with it. Agree, disagree, ask a question about it, or offer an opinion, just don't let it go by without notice.

6. Look your new found friend in the eye, it engenders trust (but don't stare). Also, use the person's name a time or two during the conversation; it will help you remember the name, and will draw the person's attention to what you are talking about.

7. Don't forget to smile and have fun with your conversation!


Tips

* Just relax. Chances are that whatever small-talk you're making isn't going to stick out in anyone's mind a few months from now. Just say whatever comes into your head, so long as it's not offensive or really weird. (Unless, of course, the person you're attempting to converse with is into weird stuff.)

* Remember, if you think of something in your head while you're talking, it's probably related.

* It will help if you watch some TV, listen to radio shows, and/or read a lot newspapers, magazines, and/or books. You need to have some idea of what is going on in the world. Also remember and plan to share anything you like, think is funny, or find intriguing. This is building up your own library of things that might be helpful to another person during a conversation someday. It will be amazing how you thread these interesting things when you least expect it, and make conversation an adventure instead of a dreadful task. If you take it to the next step and say things that you want the person to think of as adding value, and keep to yourself things that the person might not, you are actually honing your own personality to be appealing to the other person, and what is a greater act of kindness than that.

* If you are shy, it will be helpful to have thought about a topic or two that you could talk about.

* Follow the lead that your listener is expressing. If he or she appears interested, then continue. If he or she is looking at a clock or watch, or worse, looking for an escape strategy, then you have been going on for too long.

* Interesting and funny quotes or facts can lighten things up, and make way for things to talk about. You could also use a set of conversation starter question cards for inspiration.

* If talking over the phone, keep the person involved in the conversation at all costs. If you can't come up with a good topic, try the "questions" game. Just keep asking them questions; random questions work just fine as long as they are appropriate. This technique can save a phone conversation. The questions should be open ended questions that do not require a yes or no answer. For example "How do you know the hosts?". This way you can ask questions about what they just said or follow up with how you know the hosts (for example) instead of acting as if the conversation is an interrogation.

* Half of an effective conversation is the way you non-verbally communicate, and not necessarily what you say. Practice better non-verbal skills that are friendly and confident.

* Read newspapers and magazines to increase your knowledge so you can have more interesting things to talk about

How to Be Charming...

Got this from my 'guru' who is a well known personality grooming gurus in corporate world...


(photo is just an illustration)

Have you ever noticed how some people captivate everyone they speak to? No matter what they look like or how much money they have, they can walk into a room and instantly be the center of attention. When they leave, people think highly of them and want to emulate them. That's charisma, a sort of magnetism that inspires confidence and adoration.

Like beauty, luck, and social position, charisma can open many doors in life. Unlike these other qualities, anyone can become more charismatic.

1. Improve your posture. Good posture will give the impression of self confidence (even if you don't feel that way on the inside). While walking, maintain a relaxed yet definitive upright posture: spine long, shoulders back, head level with the ground. This may feel awkward or overpowering to you when you first practice it, but keep trying.

2. Relax the muscles in your face to the point where you have a natural, pleasant expression permanently engraved there. Face the world and show everyone youre not afraid.

3. Make a connection. When your eyes come in contact with another persons, nod and smile subtly with a subdued joy shining forth. Dont worry about the other persons reaction and dont overdo it.

4. Remember peoples names when you meet them for the first time. This takes an enormous amount of effort for most people. Repeat the persons name when stating your name to that person will help you to remember it better. For example: Hi Jack, Im Wendy. Follow through with small talk and repeat the persons name. Repeat it once more when you say goodbye. Its not just about helping you to remember that person. The more you say a persons name, the more that person will feel that you like them and the greater the chance theyll warm up to you.

5. Be interested in people. If you meet a new acquaintance, for example a coworker, a classmate, a friend of a friend, etc. find out about their immediate family and interests. Be sure to ask after the names of family members and remember them. Be careful in that subject though you dont want to be nosy. If you ask too much they will become uncomfortable. Also ask after their particular interests in life. These two topics will ensure much better small talk than just harping on about school or work. Most people dont like to think about those things at social occasions unless they have to. Even if it is about networking, you should understand fully the worth of taking a break from talking shop. It is important to refrain from talking up about yourself. Be purely interested and impressed by the person with whom you are speaking.

6. Orient topics toward the audience. This means taking into account topics that interest those around you, even if you are not so keen on them. If you are in a sporty crowd, talk about last nights game or the meteoric rise of a new team. If you are amongst a group of hobbyists, draw out their hobbies and make remarks related to fishing, knitting, mountain climbing, movies, etc. Nobody expects you to be an expert. It is your level of interest and willingness to engage in topics that makes you an interesting person to be around. Exercise an open mind. Let others do the explaining. If someone mistakenly thinks you know more about the topic, be genuine and simply say that your knowledge is limited but that you are hoping to learn more about it.

7. Praise others instead of gossiping. If you are talking with someone or you are talking in a group of people, and up pops the subject of another person in a positive or negative way, be the one to mention something you like about that person. Hearsay is the most powerful tool in gaining charm because it is always viewed as 100% sincere. It has the added benefit of creating trust in you. The idea will spread that you never have a bad word to say about anyone. Everyone will know that their reputation is safe with you.

8. Dont Lie. A lie is something you say for which there is some direct evidence somewhere out there that contradicts it. If you tell Mary that you like Jane and Billy that you dont like Jane, Mary and Billy will talk and your reputation will be ruined. No one will believe a word you say.

9. Issue compliments generously, especially to raise others self esteem. Try to pick out something that you appreciate in any situation and verbally express that appreciation. If you like something or someone, find a creative way to say it and say it immediately. If you wait too long, it may be viewed as insincere and badly timed, especially if others have beaten you to it. If you notice that someone is putting a lot of effort into something, compliment it, even if you feel that there is room for improvement. If you notice that someone has changed something about themselves haircut, manner of dress) notice it, and point out something you like about it. If you are asked directly, be charming and deflect the question with a very general compliment.

10. Be gracious in accepting compliments. Get out of the habit of assuming that the compliment is being given without genuine intent. Even when someone makes a compliment out of contempt, there is always a germ of jealous truth hiding in their own heart. Be effusive in accepting the compliment. Go beyond a mere thank you and enjoin this with Im glad you like it or It is so kind of you to have noticed. These are compliments in return. Avoid backhanding a compliment. There is nothing worse to a person complimenting than to receive the response Oh well I wish I was as ______ as you/that situation. That is tantamount to saying, No, I am not what you are saying I am, and your judgment is wrong.

11. Control your tone of voice. The tone of your voice is crucial. Most people feel insecure somewhere inside and have an inability to accept praise. For this very reason, when you praise, do it subtly and glibly. When you say, you look nice today it should be in the exact same tone that you would use to say its a nice day. Any variation from your normal tone will arouse suspicion about your sincerity. Practice giving compliments into a recorder and play it back. Does it sound sincere? Practice until you get it right.. It might not sound right to you, in that case, ask someone for judgement.


Tips

* Developing charisma is an art. The general guidelines above can help you be more charismatic, but your charisma must come from within you and must reflect you as an individual or it will appear fake. Fortunately, everyone has the ability to be charismatic, and it simply needs to be coaxed out. Practice and take note of what works and what needs improvement.

* Dont mimic others. People with well developed charisma have a remarkable ability not only to sway peoples opinions but also to cause others to emulate their personalities and even gestures. At the same time, however, research has shown that charismatic people do not emulate other charismatic people. Their individuality sets them apart.

* Have a message. Dont be afraid to be controversial, to push the envelope. If you believe in something or feel strongly about it, communicate that in a respectful way. Your charisma will help people be accepting of your ideas.

Before You Complaint...

Today before you say an unkind word -
Think of someone who can't speak.

Before you complain about the taste of your food -
Think of someone who has nothing to eat.

Before you complain about your husband or wife -
Think of someone who's crying out to GOD for a companion.

Today before you complain about life -
Think of someone who went too early to heaven.

Before you complain about your children -
Think of someone who desires children but they're barren.

Before you argue about your dirty house someone didn't clean or sweep -
Think of the people who are living in the streets.

Before whining about the distance you drive
Think of someone who walks the same distance with their feet.

And when you are tired and complain about your job.
Think of the unemployed, the disabled, and those who wish they had your job.

But before you think of pointing the finger or condemning another -
Remember that not one of us is without sin and we all answer to one MAKER.

And when depressing thoughts seem to get you down -
Put a smile on your face and thank ALLAH you're alive and still around.